Yesterday, Hillary
Clinton sat down with the Human Rights
Campaign. Marriage, she said, is
"a fundamental building block of our society", turning what is
generally a criticism of gay marriage into a argument for it. You can see the same turn when a republican senator's son came out, prompting him to adopt the pro-gay "stability" stance, albeit with an edge of self-reflection
When Maria Miller,
culture secretary and the conservative MP for Basingstoke, gave her statement to
parliament on the gay marriage bill, she ended it on a similar note, arguing for marriage
through suggesting that it is what provides institutional foundation:
"...Marriage is one of the
most important institutions we have. It binds families and society together. It
is a building block that promotes stability."
When I mentioned
Miller's statement to my students a few weeks ago when we were studying Zymunt
Bauman, I asked them what they thought this might suggest. Social theory
teaching always works much better if I can get students to transpose abstract
thought onto topical matters. Marriage is, fundamentally, fundamental. It offers solidity. That's why it's called an
institution. It's an anchor of economic stability - it
is as much a practical decision as it is a romantic one. By extending that to
gay people, "it promotes stability", as Miller says. The fluidity of
life today - go where the jobs are, meet people online - sits in direct tension
with an institution like marriage.
As the liquidity of contemporary living subsumes tradition, the project of marriage - our inclination and ability to commit- becomes gradually more precarious. We can talk ourselves blue in the face about trends in British divorce statistics. Gay marriage, though, and Cameron's inclination to push it through, seems just as relevant. If we can look at the ongoing espousal of marriage through a lens of pragmatism - that it is, almost solely, a practical move on the part of the government - I think we get closer to the truth than Clegg and Cameron can with their turgid ramblings about love.